Becoming bisexual
Realising I was bisexual: Pippa&#;s story
So, I’m Pippa, and I’m bisexual. Hi!
I didn’t realise I was attracted to both genders for a long period. I’d always been friends with girls, but as a kid I never thought about girls in a romantic way… whereas I had ‘crushes’ on boys, who I obsessed over, and who I wanted to kiss and hold hands with and be with foreeeever. But the first time I watched a film or tv show and felt sexually attracted to the person on the screen, it was a chick – a scene in American Pie, I think! I assumed the feelings were because I wanted to “be” as attractive and sexy as the woman on screen, so I didn’t think too much about it!
It wasn’t until I was 18 that I properly started having sexual fantasies and desires, and more than half of them were about women. I was freaked out, but I was in denial and firmly convinced myself that the thoughts about women were just a phase, or just something I found sexually electrifying because it’s a bit ‘different’.
But by the time I was 21 I realised I was unhappy, that being in denial about my sexuality was affecting my relationships and tha
Being Bi, You Can Still "Pick A Side"
“You’re actually bisexual?” an older brand-new friend of mine asked during dinner last week.
“Living and breathing,” I replied, bracing myself for the inevitable interrogation ahead.
“Okay, can I ask you something?” he said, to which I begrudgingly nodded.
My companion then launched into a long story about how he had a warm tryst with a married queer man about 20 years ago. The dude explained to him that he was in evidence, bi, and while he loves his wife and kids, he feels he made a huge existence mistake. He would contain preferred to have a gay lifestyle — going to gay bars, online dating men, having a crew of queer friends, and having the occasional sexual encounter with a chick. (Instead, unfortunately, he cheats on his wife during business trips.)
My friend then asked, “Do you ever feel compelled to choose a side?”
Yes, I carry out, and the truth is, I already have. While I am still bi, and will always be bi — my lifestyle, work, friends, mannerisms, and the spaces I undergo most comfortable in are gay.
It’s a bizarre feeling because when you “pick a
Becoming Bisexual
Peter McGraw invites two friends into the Solo Studio to discuss what appears to be an emerging shift: once heterosexual women embracing their bisexuality. His guests, Rachel and Taylor, talk about their experience becoming bisexual in their thirties, and Peter presents data detecting a shift in the number of people identifying as lesbian, gay, and bisexual.
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Becoming Bisexual
Welcome, Taylor.
Hey, Peter.
Welcome help, Rachel.
Hello.
I&#;ll tell you the origins of this show. I have noticed this based on my own personal life with platonic friendships. Women who typically were identified as heterosexual have started dating women. Two of those women who told me this or disclosed this to me are you two. I think that there&#;s something going on here based upon personal anecdotes and paying attention to the planet. I wanted to do an episode to explore this and you both were kind enough to say yes.
You did treat me to the recovery center in command to twist my arm to reach here.
I fed you too. Taylor I’m Jemma Stovell, a Recovery Coach for Step Together. I am many things &#; some I’ve always known. I’m creative, I’m stubborn, I’m kind, I’m curious and I’m proudly colourful and happy to display my ego outwardly. Later in life I’ve also realised I don’t deliberate about some things in the same way many others execute. Partly because they weren’t talked about, or widely understood, as they were for me when I was growing up. One is that I was born with ADHD and the other is that I’m bisexual &#; someone who is emotionally, romantically, or sexually attracted to more than one sex, gender, or gender identity, though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way, or to the same degree. Both were very misrepresented in the 90’s, which is something the young me didn’t realise. Bi erasure and heteronormativity The rhetoric when I was a kid was that it was normal to experiment with your sexuality, but that it was a phase. My friends might practise kissing their female friends, so they were ready for when they found a boyfriend
How bisexual erasure makes it tough to come out