How to tell if your crush is gay
DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not sure if I’ve just lost what seemed to be shaping up to be a really fine friend. I am 22yo, she is 24yo
She’s a woman I met in a class about a year or so ago when the both of us were in school, after our class finished we stayed friendly but we would only see each other once in a (long) while. Long story short, I move out of town, I move back, time passes and we are beginning to display out more often. I wouldn’t say we were “close” but recently we were getting closer as we were helping each other with things here and there and finding a lot of enjoyment spending time together as friends.
I had spoken to her just over a week ago and told her that I was attracted to her but she told me that she was currently in a “friends with benefits” kind of situation with another individual and there were perhaps thoughts to get more serious. That and another reason or two was why our relationship wouldn’t be going past friendship; not what I wanted but hey its not the end of the world either. So one evening a few days later we’re hanging out again, I’d standard that I
Here's What To Do When Your Crush Isn't Out
Dating in the queer society can be complicated at any age, but it can be especially tricky in high school. Admiration + sexual exploration + gender identity questions + parents and school and friends and LIFE = a slightly difficult thing to navigate. And that's not even taking into consideration how your passion might be feeling. Accomplish you know how they identify? Where are they at with their sexual orientation? Or if they're out to their friends and family? These questions might be making you wonder: What do I do when I desire to ask someone out, but they haven't yet come out as queer?
Well, let's dive in.
First dates are hard, no matter how old you are or how many you've been on. And it can be especially challenging when you’re just coming to terms with your sexuality, and your exposure to relationships and counsel is dominated by heteronormative ways of expressing and being in love. When I was younger and coming to terms with my own sexuality, it seemed like my whole life was dominated by my queer crushes — on my friends, on celebrities, and even
Can't tell if I'm bi or lgbtq+ because of a celebrity crush
Unread postby IrisEnfys »
So, this feels awkward for me, but I'm a 17 year old teen who used to identify as homosexual woman, but feel that may not be accurate because of fantasies about a male celebrity. I keep having dreams where we possess sex (usually him giving me oral sex before having intercourse with me, even though I don't usually recall most of it), and sometimes fantasize about doing quixotic and sexual things with him even though I don't masturbate at all really, much less to specific fantasies like being with him. I'm not sure I'm bi though, because he's really the only guy I hold fantasies about and I don't even consider him that attractive. Also, while I know beauty is subjective and everyone has unlike taste, I don't have "typical" attraction to "hot" guys but fantasize about him even though he's not considered that attractive by most people (he's in his 40s, older than my parents, and I don't even believe he looks that good honestly and think his girlfriend looks way beat than him), which may mean I
I (male) have a admiration on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it
Unread postby Sam »
Hi, I'm Sam, still 14, haven't posted here in a while.
A several months ago I met a girl. After a few weeks I realised I had a infatuation on her. That very same day it came up in conversation that she's gay. This would've been fine, but then I was misinformed (unintentionally) that she was actually bi, which got my hopes up, so over the next few months I did my finest to get her to like me and stuff, but I could explain she wasn't really interested, and recently I launch out she was lgbtq+, not bi, the whole time. Because of this, I'd gradually convinced over the course of those few months that I had lost interest and now only liked her platonically. At least, that's my theory, that I've been lying to myself, because I realised today that I still very much have feelings for her, and it's pulling me apart from the inside. I really appreciate spending time with her, it releases the cheerful chemicals and all that stuff, but I simultaneously know that she's same-sex attracted so my chances of progressing further than the